OCD, anxiety, depression, ADD, etc. (most neuroses and behavioral “disorders”) are the result of malfunctioning personality programs operating on autopilot.
In most cases, these disorders can be completely cured. The truth is that you have to initiate Personality Change and develop it through a Daily Practice. Some people stumble onto this through breakdowns and “breakthrough experiences” through pure luck. I stumbled onto it through pure luck, too; only I saw this process and its refinement as my calling, so I studied it.
In fact, these “neuroses” and “mental health problems” are actually clues to the types of personality personality programs we have to change and what kinds of childhood memories we need to be on the lookout for. Dr. Neal Goldsmith’s book, Psychedelic Healing, is an excellent resource for understanding this “revolutionary” idea. Be thankful that you have your “illness” — it’s a direct indicator of the work you have to do.
The personalities we have are a set of subconscious behavior programs developed in childhood as a response to the dangers and challenges of being a kid. We develop our default personal style and life approaches during this phase.
If our parents punish us through humiliation, we grow up terrified of humiliation. If they punished us with violence, we grow up with an innate fear of confrontation. If they violate our trust and safety needs, we grow up hating or fearing authority (or in extreme cases, being unable to trust anyone). These personality programs are also built around what we’re praised and rewarded for. If you are praised for being “smart”, you’ll grow up trying to look and act smart as a way to get love and attention. If you are praised for athletic accomplishments, then you’ll seek out opportunities to push your body to its limits. And if you’re praised for accomplishment (or punished for it to the point where you have a chip on your shoulder and desire to “prove everyone wrong”), you seek to be an “achiever. Also. With any of these examples, it’s also possible that your default reaction was to rebel and do the opposite.
As children, these autopilot personalities are effective enough to get us through to adulthood. Unfortunately, these default personality settings are not completely compatible with adulthood, which is why so many people struggle with anxiety, depression, chronic fatigue, ADD, laziness (or a general lack of motivation or productivity) and all kinds of other neuroses and emotional problems.
The method is to consciously claim your subconscious personality programs, examine them by going over relevant childhood memories that led to their formation, forgive/accept them, consider what you’d like your new programs to be, and then reprogram your subconscious to use the new programs.
It starts with an initiation event (and possibly a few follow-up sessions) and instituting a Daily Practice so that you can run these programs (tinkering with them as need be) and grow into them.
People try to solve this problem with “willpower”, but willpower is only good for starting new habits/beliefs and gutting it out when you hit a temporary rough patch.
The tool that works does have a stigma attached to it. But if you are suffering, which is more important to you, observing a social taboo or healing yourself?
Here’s an Initiation Event method that works:
I wrote the above linked post with “bad habits” in mind (because I saw TONS of “how can I stop being a procrastinating loser?” posts and wanted a go-to answer for them), but it works equally well for these kinds of mental health issues — personality change and development are the cure. It worked for me and the people in my life. It’ll work for you, too.
And please let me know of your progress!
P.S. — If you’re like me to write a version of the Initiation and Daily Practice posts with your situation in mind, let me know and I’ll write it and add it to the site.