Feel like your life is going nowhere?
You’re not alone.
Every day, I hear questions like “How can I find purpose?” and “How can I stop running away from success?” and “How can I stop being such a loser?” and “How can I have a happy, fulfilled life?” and “Why am I addicted to activities that don’t serve me?” and… it goes on and on. I found that I was spending a lot of time giving the same advice over and over.
I used to be a loser. I used treat myself like a bum. I used to think that I couldn’t do anything beyond quick instant gratification and pointless day jobs that literally made me sick to my stomach.
And then, after trying a bunch of stuff that didn’t work and realizing that merely hyping myself up would never work, I learned how to fix this problem. I initially wanted to make this into a video, but I want to link to stuff that helped me so it can help you, too.
I’m starting to hate list-y blog posts, but in this case, following these instructions in order will work well:
2) Acquire a decent dose of a classical psychedelic (Magic Mushrooms are best, but LSD and Mescaline works, too). Or, if you have time and a little bit of money, give Ayahuasca a try.
Note: If your family history has schizophrenics and/or psychotics, don’t mess around with psychedelics – skip steps 2, 4, & 11. See Safe Psychedelic Use if you decide to take the plunge.
Also, while these substances are legal in some places, they are illegal in others. They should be legal everywhere and if soldiers are using Magic Mushrooms to cure their PTSD, you can use them to work on your issues, too. But don’t get arrested.
3) Read the War of Art in one day. Sit down and force yourself.
4) The next day, engage in a psychedelic trip. Examine your childhood memories and seek out what patterns led to the personality you have and find the ugly stuff. Dissect everything in your personality that doesn’t serve you. Make a list of of traits that would truly make you happy. Think about things in life that bring you joy. Highlight the things that you can share with other people. Narrow the list down to things you would be happy doing, even if it’s hard.
Note: If you are on medication for psychological issues, don’t mix meds. Take a month off and get it out of your system before tripping. I’m not a doctor. If you have any fears about mixing chemicals, don’t take risks; check with a professional.
*If the suggestion that you try psychedelics sounds scary or reckless, consider the possibility that you might not know everything. The latest research shows that magic mushrooms are safer than coffee. COFFEE. And consider my own experience using psychedelics as a tool when I cured myself of a severe, chronic depression.
6) Set aside at least 15 minutes every day to “meditate”. If that sounds like too much, spend that time in total quiet with your phone turned off, breathing deeply, concentrating on your breathing, and letting your mind wander. I meditate in the bath tub.
7) Eliminate time wasters from your life.
Get rid of your TV.
Get rid of loser friends who drag you down.
Use your phone strictly as a tool and designate specific times to check your messages and correspond. Ignore it the rest of the time. When you are at home, charge it in a different room if you have to.
Learn how to have low-tech fun (tabletop games, outdoor activities like hiking or surfing, etc.) in your spare time — and set aside spare time to let your brain relax and your nerves to refresh. Burnout is real and once you start working on something you enjoy and are passionate about, it is easy to overdo it. You might not believe that now, but in a few months from now, you will amaze yourself.
Stop going to bars and nightclubs to waste time and money and go to meetups and join clubs in order to meet like-minded people so that you can grow together.
8) Join a gym with training in a legit combat art/sport (Boxing, BJJ, and Muay Thai are terrific choices). Pay for a membership. Go at least 3 times per week and talk to people while you are there.
9) Make a list of things you need to do to achieve the thing you decided that you want. Take note of the skills you need to develop and the gradual steps you need to take. Work on them every day. Refine your list as you go.
10) Read 1-3 books every week on topics that either interest you, inspire you, or level-up your skills.
11) If your momentum slips, have another psychedelic trip and dig deeper into your subconscious, looking for answers. You’ll find them.
12) Bonus points: once you have done all of the above and are changing your habits so that they serve your purpose, and your passions are consuming your time, read Simon Sinek’s Start With Why.
One of the most important things you can do, once you are really humming, is to embrace the idea of Daily Practice. Steven Pressfield talks about it in his books, but there is so much more to it. I’m going to make a video on how to incorporate a Daily Practice into your life and what it should look like. It’ll be part of my new “Superhero Training” series.
Remember, just because you are unsatisfied, doesn’t mean you will be forever.
I believe that you can do almost anything with your life.
I really do.
And I have faith that you will find your own magical piece of the pie and make your beautiful dreams into reality. Just remember, that part of this process is refining your goals and growing as a person. And failing. Failure is the surest way to grow and learn and get better.
If, as you evolve, you decide that your current goals aren’t serving you, change them. Achievement isn’t the path of fulfillment. It is a symptom of fulfillment. Stay true to your Muse and do things that make you feel pride and joy.
Your life can be almost anything you want it to be.
It’s up to you.
It really is.
If you have questions or need advice, ask in the comment section or send a message.
Don’t make excuses. Don’t wimp out. And don’t justify your failures with rationalizations.
Take the steps.
Live an awesome life!